How to Help: Supporting an Infertile Couple
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Most couples are very surprised when they discover that they may be infertile. This can be an emotional blow to a family. The couple dealing with infertility can really be in for a roller coaster ride of draining emotional experiences. Seeing someone you love go through something so complicated can be hard for family and friends as well. You may feel very sad and helpless when talking with the couple. You may feel like you should offer advice.
Keep in mind that you are not an infertility specialist and you have no way of knowing what infertility treatment may be best for the ones you love. Be careful about finding a lot of information online and offering it up as a solution to all of their problems. Many couples experiencing infertility are very deeply affected by their problem and may react irrationally to suggestions from family and friends. Dealing with infertility is a very personal journey that couples must go through together.
Remember that the couple is probably having trouble dealing with their infertility. Men and women react differently to infertility and some may consider their partner’s reaction to be the wrong one. This can really cause the couple to be in an uphill battle with each other. You offering up solutions is not going to solve all of their problems. You may only be giving them more to deal with. This can severely impact relationships, so you should proceed carefully when offering support and advice.
Do not get discouraged, there are ways that you can offer support without causing more harm than good. You can still be a pillar for the couple to lean on. You can be supportive without intruding on personal matters. Let the couple come to you with information rather than constantly prying for the scoop. Let them know that you are here if they need you, but you understand that this can be a very personal matter. Be there when they want to talk. Don’t discount their fears because they can be very real. Being afraid and talking about it to a third party can be very therapeutic for a couple. Offer perspective whenever possible, but don’t pretend to completely understand, as every situation is different.
One thing to remember is that the couple you care about is feeling very much out of control in a lot of ways. You can offer constructive support by giving them control whenever possible. Asking how you can help and putting them in control of dictating your role can help them feel supported without giving them the impression that they need to be saved. If they would like for you to stay out of it, then stay out of it. Let them know that you respect that decision and that you will be there for them if they need you. Support the decisions that they make as far as treatments are concerned. Wish them well, but try not to speculate on whether certain treatments will work. Offer as much support as needed without going overboard and you will be a great asset to the struggling couple.
Patients of Dr. Eric Daiter have often offered kind words about the way that he handles their very personal infertility situations. If you are searching for a specialist to deal with the infertility treatment of the ones you love, you may want to take personal testimonials like the one below into consideration.
Let me share some examples of the kind of attention Dr. Eric Daiter’s patients receive. While his main office is in Edison NJ, he maintains a satellite office in Ocean Township NJ. The Ocean Township office is closer to my home. However, given the nature of his practice, timing is everything. Ovulation did not always occur when he had office hours in Ocean Township. Dr. Eric Daiter, therefore, arranged to see me in his Ocean Township office, outside his normal hours, to accommodate my schedule or that of my husband. He did this on several occasions.
I have had the occasion to call Dr. Eric Daiter’s office with questions and concerns. His office staff has always been kind and courteous. Surely, this is a positive reflection on their employer. Further, if he was not available to take my call immediately, he never failed to promptly return calls, even on Saturdays. Additionally, he always spent as much time as necessary explaining things and answering questions. Neither my husband nor I ever had the impression that he was in a hurry or a rush to move on to the next patient.
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it is estimated by the national average that one out of four women miscarry or have experienced trouble conceiving a baby at least once during their lifetime
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18 Comments
October 27th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
If you were joking about MasterCard, then the format would be fine. However, if you use it to advertise you service, then it is infringement. Sorry.
October 27th, 2009 at 2:25 pm
I think that sometimes people need help. What i don't agree with is the mothers that have baby after baby after baby and just use the system.
October 27th, 2009 at 6:48 pm
48. No one told me I'd be lying awake at night doing endless calculations of what day I can take an early pregnancy test, what day an HPT should be positive if I'm pregnant, what day implantation should be occuring, what day my temp should drop if it's going to…
49. No one told me so many women have trouble ttc!
50. No one told me that I need to hide my worries/anxiety or my husband might feel under too much pressure to perform!
51. No one told me I'd be lying to my friends and family, telling them my doctor put me on birth control to regulate my cycles…just to take off some of the pressure!
52. No one told me I'd become an expert on all subjects pertaining to the female reproductive system — and that I would occasionally perplex my friends by speaking authoritatively on these subjects because none of them know I'm trying to conceive.
53. No one told me that statistics would become so important. That I would scour the internet for hours trying to figure out the odds of things like chemical pregnancies and conception on clomid.
54. No one told me that I would want to rip my family member & in-laws' faces off every time one of them asks, "and when are you two going to have a baby?"
55. No one told me that you need to have a plan in place (including prepared reaction statements) for the unexpected times when your friend announces they are pregnant and you need to react as if you feel nothing but genuine happiness at the moment.
56. No one told me that my husband and I would send a Christmas card out this year with pictures of our dogs by the tree.
57. No one told me baby doll shirts & empire waists are the enemy when ttc for awhile. People might ask if you're pregnant and you will want to cry.
October 27th, 2009 at 1:45 pm
Now is the time to focus as never before on our health and the PURITY of the things we allow into(or onto) our bodies as well as our minds! Avoid chemicals whenever you can. Use natural detergents, toothpastes, cosmetics, hair care products, sunscreens etc. READ LABELS!
Most drugs just treat the symptoms and have horrible toxic effects. There are other ways to heal out there! Massive fresh and lightly cooked vegetables and very little sugar and starches. Exercise a little already! DO IT
October 27th, 2009 at 2:19 pm
Calm down!
Take 5 slow deep breaths. Most of this stuff may or may not be true, but if you freak out, then the stress WILL hurt you. Balance your consumption of difficult truths with healthy doses of laughter and positive thinking. Be of STRONG MIND. Come to PEACE, let go of your anger. Eat your vegetables dammit! 
STOP EATING SUGAR (and starches, and limit sugary fruits and juices). Give and receive a little pleasure. Talk to friends and family everyday and tell them you love them
October 27th, 2009 at 10:07 pm
Although I feel sorry for these children, we have to many babies in America that need good homes, especially afro American babies. These babies can be adopted in a week, and the government will pay you weekly for adopting one, not to mention pay for their medical benefits until age 18.
October 27th, 2009 at 4:35 pm
let people know the government cannot be trusted, they want to control the population with these “vaccines”
October 28th, 2009 at 3:18 am
Yes i bought this movie a few weeks ago and enjoyed it. Its so sad some of the things. what got to me the most is the guy who's gay and his brother didnt accept him, so he drugged himself up so much and made his brother watch him kill himself. that was so sad
October 28th, 2009 at 6:42 am
No loving parent would allow their children to be guinea pigs for ANY vaccine!
Yeah…why bring back a “dead” flu by digging up that Induit corpse?!
I read about the Tetanus vaccine–another scam. Your body does not build up resistance to the bacteria, which is why you have to keep getting the shot. If you get the shot, you can still get Tetanus! The bacteria is anerobic, so open the would to oxygen & clean it within 4 hours. The shot has very high levels of Mercury!
October 29th, 2009 at 9:17 am
LOL DougDoug I LOVE all your questions. They are a blast.
Here one more:
Because homossexuality is a choice people make. Because of course, who wouldn't choose to deal with the mentality of some narrow minded hick from Texas that ended up in DC?
PS: Dear Doug I had to edit my answer and add this because I cannot believe how dumb people are and cannot get sarcasm.
But my absolute favorite answer goes to "fr_chuck" that has a picture of a man dressed as a priest and tell that "children shouldn't be around sex perverts". LOL Hum…. you mean, like PRIESTS?!??!?!?
October 29th, 2009 at 10:22 am
Sounds good, but I don't understand how it will cure the diseases. If you're saying the clone will be disease-less, that's still not the same thing. It's not actually curing the human, though. Very ice wording and nicely said, though. Good Job! Ummm just so people know, you might possible find a way to slip the meaning of infertile in there. Hope I helped!
October 29th, 2009 at 6:42 am
Let’s not forget Elderberries. Make a decoction out of it. 1 teaspoon for every 8 oz of water. ad berries to water, bring to a boil, let steep for 20 minutes. Strain berries, drink tea. Do this 3-5 times a day as soon as you notice flu symptoms. You will be healed within 3 days. To prevent flu, do it once or twice a week. It is a VERY good antiviral medication. I swear it works I won’t use anything else. Period.
October 29th, 2009 at 10:24 am
List Of Components Of Glaxo H1N1 Vaccine
BIOLOGICAL INDEX
chicken embryos (eggs)
influenza virus, H5N1
virus culture
CHEMICAL INDEX
+alpha-tocopherol +aluminum adjuvant +AS03 adjuvant +Daronrix +disodium phosphate +formaldehyde +magnesium chloride +octoxynol 10 +polysorbate 80 (Tween 80 +potassium chloride +potassium dihydrogen phosphate +sodium chloride +sodium deoxycholate +squalene +thiomersal (thimerosol) (MERCURY) +vitamin E
October 29th, 2009 at 2:49 pm
I speak from experience……………
The best possible General medicine for a good immune system is Curry, not in powder form, but a properly made curry with all the very natural herbs and spices.
It works time and time again, even if you already have an ailment , like flu…… eat curry, within 24 hours you’re better, and you will find your body resists flu and other bugs.
I expose my body to extremes, hot, cold, stress, fatigue, it works well for me, at least 1 plate of curry per week.
October 30th, 2009 at 12:33 am
My husband was born with CF too. We have been married for almost 4 years now. He is going to be 30 this year. We have never had to use any kind of protection, and we have never gotten pregnant. I would love to have children, but I would not want to pass on the CF gene to my children and future grandchildren! It really is a TERRIBLE disease. The only difficulties my husband has had in intercourse is shortness of breath. His lung function is extremely low… lets just say… they wanted him to have a lung transplant almost 6 years ago. He decided against it…. so the very fact that he is even still alive is a miracle! So… yes… shortness of breath during intercourse is definitely an issue for him…. but, he does it anyway! ha!
We love each other very much. It has definitely been a very hard four years watching him go into the hospital on average avery two months for two weeks at a time…. but, it can only bring us closer together! I hope you and your boyfriend are very happy together and that God blesses you with a long life together! We believe that God is a mirace worker, and we believe for FULL healing for my husband's body! Hey…. he's already lived MUCH longer than any doctor ever thought he would…. but we believe God will heal him COMPLETELY! 
Nothing is impossible with God! BE BLESSED!!
October 30th, 2009 at 6:43 am
No one ever told me that it doesn't happen the first time you have unprotected sex, or that it doesn't happen when you have sex just once at any random time of the month. (Thanks high school health class!)
No one ever told me that getting pregnant doesn't necessarily mean having a baby.
No one ever told me that as cynical as I am,I would take any snake oil I read about on the internet to get pregnant!
No one ever told me that I would spend hundreds of dollars trying to get pregnant before any fertility treatments!
No one ever told me how freaking expensive pregnancy tests are when you take 5–10 every month.
No one ever told me that TTC could get SO much worse (after a miscarriage).
No one ever told me how to actually increase my odds, but EVERYONE told me to "just relax"!
No one ever told me that the one month I broke down and bought every expensive snake oil product my husband would let me get, I would get pregnant—and have tons of it all left over in my bathroom cabinet.
No one ever told me that when I finally did get pregnant, it wouldn't be a relief—I was even more stressed and psychotic worrying about the pregnancy!
But there is hope….
No one ever told me that when I finally got pregnant and everything was finally okay and I was FINALLY in the second trimester, I would completely forget all the stress, crying, and misery of TTC (mostly).
Good luck ladies! It's a hard road, but you can do it!
October 30th, 2009 at 3:58 am
Yes, you are right.
Did you know the main ingredient of Tamiflu is Star Anise.
The way they extract shikimic acid though and the recombination with other ingredients makes Tamiflu a very dangerous neuropsychiatric drug.
October 30th, 2009 at 1:10 pm
Anyone know about tetanus vaccine? I got quite ill after it a few weeks ago (i had an accident and was not in a state to think about the wisdom of being injected with it!). It felt like i got wierd flu that kept coming back after i thought it was over. A very odd illness, not like any previous one i’ve had.