Leaning on a Good Parenting Tip for Same Sex Parents
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Parenting has undeniably become a more complex reality than ever before. One of the crucial issues in the aspect of modern parenting is same sex parenting. Although it may be true that same sex parents may have existed even before this century, the issue has become more prominent in the modern age. There may be a variety of reasons for this, but whatever the reason, same sex parents and their families are on the social spot light.
Some support while others criticize same sex parents and these parents are probably out looking for a good parenting tip amidst all the hoopla. Same sex parents are still parents and are therefore equally as concerned for their children as heterosexual parents. Their need for a relevant parenting tip in a world where each parenting tip is for heterosexual parents is immediate. What can be a good parenting tip for same sex parents?
Be Honest
The foremost parenting tip for same sex parents involves honesty. There is, after all, no point in being with a partner you love if you have to keep it from your children. A recommended parenting tip therefore is to explain your situation to your children as soon as they are able to understand. When should parents speak up? Another crucial parenting tip is knowing when the appropriate time is. Kids are different from each other. Some mature faster than others. It is generally accepted though that kids today have an early recognition and understanding of reality as kids a few decades ago. A good parenting tip is to know your kids yourself. As a parent you know when the right time is.
Build a Close Relationship
Crucial to the parenting tip on honesty is the parenting tip on building good relationships with your kids. It’s easier to be honest with a child with whom you are close with. At an early age, be your child’s favorite playmate, confidante and best friend. Make your child comfortable with you by spending as much time with him/her. Make him/her feel that you will be around to help and that it’s okay to tell you things. Any parenting tip would tell you that building a close relationship starts while your child is at a young age.
Communicate Love and Logic
While you’re at the parenting tip on building a meaningful relationship, make sure that your relationship is based both on love and logic. Tell your kids that being gay doesn’t necessarily mean that you are less successful than other people. Tell them too that being gay doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll love them less or provide for them less. Tell them that there is no connection between being gay and being an incapable and unfit parent.
Accept Reality
An important parenting tip for same sex parents is the acceptance of reality. Sure, gay couples accept their being homosexuals. What they should also accept however is that their children may be made to suffer for their parents’ sexual orientation. Not everyone accepts homosexuality. The mere fact that major political and social leaders in American society have voiced opposition to same sex parenthood is enough indication that society has not fully accepted the gender choice. It is a good parenting tip to accept that kids may be bullied so that one may be better able to address the problem.
Seek Help
A final parenting tip is to seek for professional help for your kids and family. In spite of your best efforts to boost your child’s confidence and make him/her understand that homosexuality is not an abnormality, your child may not easily cope with the situation of being bullied. When the situation becomes too much for you to handle, look for support groups, counseling opportunities and parent resources to help you.
Question and Answer
Teachers-Do you have tips for parent teacher conferences?
I'm a 3rd year teacher and this is my first year conferencing by myself. I'm VERY nervous! Do you have any tips? I'm pretty sure one set of parents will ask me how I'm challenging their child. At this point I'm not, but I'm trying to think of a way to differentiate instruction for him. How do I answer that question?
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18 Comments
December 7th, 2009 at 10:57 am
Okay, it isn't fun but they are nervous too. Tell them all the good things you can think of for 10 minutes. Tell them all the good things you are doing and then gently make a suggestion about a strategy they can do at home to help theri kid become even more wonderful. I am not kidding. Why put your self through that grief. Some things for them to do are: read, read , read every single day with theri kid. I hope you are doign elementary. Probably because if you are at HS you'd have group conferences and some one to lean on. Tell them to practice writing thank you notes, grocery lists, pen pals, writing stories, etc. Tell them to prctive maht facts and spelling at home . There are lots of on line site where they can go . Try to have afew written down for them to tak with them Also try to have proof of whta you are sayign if there is a real problem. Like failed test, etc If there is a behavior problem document every word that comnes out of that kids mouth. it doesn't tak elong to do and it helps. If you are really worried about a set ot two of parents, get some one to sit in on it with you, guidance counselor, team mate, even principal. The parents are curious abotu how their kid is doign and love to hear good things. Smile alot and good luck. Sorry about spelling cause I hurried.
December 7th, 2009 at 11:19 am
Take him to church . get him involved with the childrens programs there.But the world is not a safe place you can't shelter him to much because when he is out in this dangerous world he will be able to safe guard himself not be used or abused unfortunate but true good luck just love him and be the best parent you can be god bless
December 7th, 2009 at 11:02 am
Hello, Williams! How’s everything? Fine, I hope =)
Another great work… wow!… AMAZING !!! Also, fine Piano tune! 5 *****
Take care!
December 7th, 2009 at 11:07 am
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December 7th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
really cool.
December 8th, 2009 at 4:58 am
I foster for a small private shelter. I do it because I can't see a dog who is lacking something – discipline, affection, food, grooming, whatever, and not make some effort to provide it
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I usually take dogs who do not do well in a shelter setting or who are not very adoptable – shy, poorly mannered, not housebroken, etc., so it is a lot of work.
I have the help of my two dogs (you see them in my avator photo). They serve as good role models for the foster dogs, which is a great help.
Sometimes its hard to let go – when you have invested a lot of time and energy getting a dog to trust you, its easy to think nobody will be good enough to take him home. But the best reward is seeing a dog who has been adopted, and who is doing well in his new setting.
In my case, I have chosen to absorb any costs other than medical expenses. I used to foster for a better funded rescue group that could afford to reimburse me for food, as well. Every group is different.
December 8th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
Wow..so cool you are going back to school, congrats! Try these tips, it helped me a lot:
1. buy a digital voice recorder=on low mode it records 100 hours or more and you can use it to write better notes at a moreconvenientt time. -25-35 $ version is just fine.
2. Take notes on every lecture or class. Teachers test on what they talk about more than whats in the book.
3. Use different color highlighter pens to higlight the main word in your notes, to better remember it while studying, makes it faster to memorize.
4. If you need extra credit, ask the teacher after class. Often they are very understanding and will give you an essay you can write to raise your grade in the class. I did this at least five times in four years.
5. If you got a digital recorder, then record your lectures in class and review them by listening to them with earphones when your kids are sleeping or busy. You can also transfer them to your mp3 player if its more convenient.
I hope this helps, it helped me through working two jobs at same time and having a son and wife.
good luck.
December 8th, 2009 at 3:03 pm
Goshh…. gus is right!! this is amazing & you are so amazing!!
Beautiful…
December 8th, 2009 at 11:27 pm
Don't give into tantrums, you are only making the next one bigger when you do.
Talk to your children with respect. and they will talk with respect.
Limit televission time, and don't let them have a T.V. in their room. Kids withdrawl from the family early enough and comunication is a must.
Talk to your kids about sex and drugs. most kids experiment out of curiosity, if they know what it is about, they will more then likely not try it as early.
Always punish lieing more severly then telling the truth. That away the kids know that even though they get into trouble, it is better to admit what they have done rather then hide it or keep it a secret.
Make kids do chorers to teach them that in a family, every member is important and that every one has to work togeather to make it a good family unit.
It also teaches a kid responsibility.
Teach your children to have compassion for other people.
We are entirely to desensitized now days.
Correct your child imedietly, you have less of a chance to do it out of anger, and you definately wont forget to punish them.
Teach your children early what it means to be a man / woman. So they know what will be expected of them.
Don't bail your kids out of trouble, or make excuses for them. Teach them that they must take responsibility for what they do. That means appologizing and making things right. with the other person.
Teach by example. Make sure your children see you being polite, and kind and compassionate and doing what is right.
Make kids do their home work when they first get home this teaches them that work comes first and play is to be done in their spare time.
Keep Your children busy. bored kids tend to get into more trouble.
Make sure when you have to be away from your child, you leave them with adiquate supervision.
Make sure you spend good quality time with your children. Talk to them and really get to know how they think. when they need to express anger allow them to do so. they will be more likely to come to you when some thing is bothering them.
Teach your child the value of volunteering. It builds thier self worth.
Always remember to tell your child when they have done well. weather it be on a drawing or were really well behaived. Kids love to be bragged about. and it encourages good behavior and work.
Listen to your child, and never make light of what they say. What seems to be a small and unimportant issue, can be a major catastraphy to them.
December 9th, 2009 at 5:19 am
One of my children was recently diagnosed with NVLD. She does not have all the attributes, but enough to make her a "different" learner. (she also fits an Asperger profile) She has a phenomenal memory for words and images and has great cognitive capabilities. But, motor skills are awkward, math and spelling are almost impossible and she has a very high rate of distraction from task. She is a unique individual who refuses to fit in any "box".
We have found that unschooling works very well. We use documentary television, Internet news, encyclopedias etc. We have a world map over our computer and a globe at the ready. Even though she is a good reader, she enjoys me reading to her and we read the best books we can find. Usually 19th century classics, Pearl Buck, Barbra Kingslover and any other that tells a good story and informs. We choose movies carefully. We rented "Pan's Labyrinth" and before we watched it we researched Spain and the civil war for two days, we also researched the current news of Spain and discussed it thoroughly. When we watched the movie it had so MUCH more meaning for us.
So practically everything we encounter we research and discuss. Very little written work; it chokes the flow of thought. She has a good grasp on the overall history of the world and it's peoples, an appreciation of other cultures and religions and a knowledge of the world around her. We do the same for Science. It so refreshing to explain to a 12 year old why the ground cracks when it dries and then have her ask a month later right out of the blue: "If all matter occupies space, and light occupies space, is it matter?" A great way to make learning relevant. (We studied Einsteins theory of relativity to get the answer to that one-but boy, it spiced up the conversation, and was amazing to see how a young mind, unfettered, could take a simple concept like drying mud and extrapolate it into a quest for E=MCsquared.)
She does copywork to improve her handwriting and I have her do Mavis Beacon teaches typing for her keyboarding skills. Now that she is older I have Apologeia Science for a framework for her, starting at high school level and Mars Hill Latin helps her understand English better
Math was and is tricky. We have switched to "Math U See because she has trouble retaining numbers, math will probably never come. We use Easy Grammar and Easy Writing as our framework. I researched the Robinson Curriculum and try to use that philosophy coupled with unschooling.
Yes, she is a weird kid, she doesn't fit in with her peers, she doesn't want the prize; she wants the journey. I think the trick is, is that the learning must have meaning. We were told that the use of voice recognition software is good for NVLD kids to get their thoughts down on paper. So far we haven't tried it because she is resistant to technology.
I hope this has been of help. It's hard to break out of the box and take education into your own hands, especially when you stray off the beaten path (even for homeschoolers) I think the most important task is to emphasize your child's strengths, follow his interests and try to compensate for the weaknesses without putting too much stress on the impossible.
December 9th, 2009 at 11:03 am
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December 9th, 2009 at 12:06 pm
I don't know what your mother does… I can only refer to mine. Nevertheless, I think, I know what you feel like…
In my case I had to try to not listen. Listening only lead to more hurt. Don't listen. Don't answer. And doing something that shows you, you can do things is a good way, too.
Stay away from strange people, unsafe places and unhealthy thoughts. Throw bottles against walls to get rid from hate and anger. And do sports to route that energy where it doesn't hurt anybody, you included.
And watch out for the others – heavy sarcasm with people who understand helps a whole lot.
Believe me, the last two years you will make it alive – imagine how you'll never answer the phone when she will be lonely once you're gone – and believe me, she will be
You can do that – you wanna win, don't you?!
December 9th, 2009 at 5:57 am
prodigious!
December 9th, 2009 at 5:27 pm
Johnny Depp reminds me so much of John Barrymore.
December 9th, 2009 at 8:08 pm
lemme just say… you are my new hero.
December 10th, 2009 at 1:49 am
Man, you’re good at that.
I like your subject matter, too.
I can write music til the cows come home but I always tell people that I can’t “draw water”. haha.
Thanks for the invite. Rare treat.
December 10th, 2009 at 2:57 am
Wow! Seriously, that looks like real picture!
December 10th, 2009 at 11:38 am
Break up the tasks. Start with 5 pages a day.